Friday, May 04, 2007

Cool Cat Billy Melton

On April 24, my grandfather, William Oliver Melton, passed away. He was 85 and had lived a full, joyful life. We, his family and friends all over the country, were sad, but that night we knew they were partying in heaven!

In his obituary he wrote, "Without music life is a mistake."
(Any wonder I married a musician?)

At Papa's house, you could listen to music,

look up at music (This is the ceiling in one of the basement
rooms.),


walk on music,


sit on music,


tell time by music,


party to music (My grandparents once had more than 1,000 people
attend a 24-hour-long party in their one-bathroom house!),


learn about the history of black music in America,


(Grandmama, Count Basie, Papa)
And simply appreciate music and life.

He was one cool cat and oh how I miss him.

Wednesday, April 25, 2007

I am the granddaughter who
graduated from KU
preferred hamburger to steak
didn't get pregnant in school
wrote all the books
married a musician
Carleenie baby

Goodbye Papa baby

Friday, April 13, 2007

Heroes

  1. Brava to Coach C. Vivian Stringer and the Rutgers women's basketball team for how they handled themselves this week!
  2. I learned about Jane Stillwater on BBC Radio. She's a 64-year-old grandmother who left California and flew to Baghdad to report on her blog what's really going down.

Thursday, April 12, 2007

Ghost Road Press Writing Contest

2007 Guidelines for the Open Windows 2007 Creative Writing Contest

Ghost Road Press is seeking entries of poetry, creative nonfiction, fiction

Guidelines: There are two ways to enter this year's contest. Send a labeled CD-ROM OR as an email attachment (preferred method) to contest@ghostroadpress.com with the following items:
The work(s) in a Word document with the title of the piece on every page in the right-hand corner—no author info on the work itself—double-spaced; a cover sheet with author name, address, phone number, and working email address. Cover sheet should include a 30-40 word bio. For multiple poems, each poem should appear on its own page, as it should appear in its printed form. No 3.5" floppy disks. For email, please use an appropriate subject line, such as "Open Windows Contest Entry."

You may pay the submission fee (1 story or essay / up to three poems per $15) by check or online with Paypal on our web site. No entries will be processed until payment is received. There is no required theme. Stories and essays should not exceed 4500 words. Entry Fee: 1 story or creative nonfiction piece for $15; up to 3 poems for $15. Simultaneous submissions are permissible. Prizes: $500 + 4 copies Open Windows 2007 for best story, creative nonfiction piece, and poem; 3 copies OW2007 for 2nd prize; 2 copies OW2007 for third prize (nine prize winners total). Categories will be judged separately. There is no set theme for any of the categories. The contest submission period is April 1 to June 30. Winners will be announced on September 15 on our web site only.

Go here for more info.

Wednesday, April 11, 2007

Old girls' night out

Yep, the Pajama Gardener was out of the house after dark 2 nights in a row. Last night, my friend Leslie and I went to go see Corinne Bailey Rae and John Legend in concert. It was a great show (though they couldn't quite get the sound right for John Legend's set).

As we walked up to the theater, Leslie said, "I'm glad we're not the oldest people here." And sure nuff, we weren't. There were lots of gray and bald heads in there. And didn't the singers know it--they did a few flashbacks to Robert Flack, the O'Jays, Carole King and Led Zeppelin. We old girls danced and sang along and had a great old time...after we got some cough drops for the smoke during Legend's set. (Not that kind of smoke-it was dry ice-I only smelled that kind of smoke once, as if someone near me took a quick toke.)

I was feeling pretty good, being up and out after dark and all, until Rae said, with no irony at all, that she was 28 and had been playing in bands for a long time, since she was 16, and it looked like things were finally happening for her. I guess in a Beyonce world, you get worried if you haven't made it by the time you're staring at 30. Thank God publishing isn't like that (yet). Speaking of the rest of the pop scene, it was a pleasure to listen to a singer-songwriter, a young woman who is indeed making it without shedding her clothes or wiggling her ass.

Then John Legend came on, looking all of 7 years old, and everyone pulled out their cells to take pictures. I looked at the sea of blue screens in front of me and remembered when people held lighters and joints up in the air, not cell phones. And I began to feel my age again. But then Legend and his band got us dancing and singing and, yes, screaming like teens. Much fun.

Tonight I go to my critique group. Tomorrow, I collapse.

Monday, April 09, 2007

Sightings and signings


I met Jodi Picoult tonight! I went to hear her read and sign Nineteen Minutes. You want to talk about loyal fans! Her fans are serious. I heard women debating the merits of one book versus another and how Jodi's style changed from book to book. I can only imagine how gratifying that is. Of course, her book is currently #1 on the NYT list (which I'm sure has its rewards), but to see people in person who are actually reading and discussing your work (not just buying it because it looks right on their coffee tables) has to be something.

She was fast, Jodi. She got through 200+ people in a little over an hour. And without short-changing, it seemed. I scored an author-to-author introduction, thanks to the lovely folks at the Tattered Cover. Thanks Charles and Matt and Jinx and everyone who worked tonight! Thanks too to Lisa, Jodi's escort, who actually made the wonderful introduction. Tonight reminded me of what local, independent stores do that just can't be replicated.

I like to go to readings/signings and I like to be the one in the writer's chair. About 10 years ago, Alice Walker read at the Tattered Cover. She perhaps isn't as fast a signer-chatter as Jodi, so she wasn't speaking to anyone or personalizing books. However, while in line I watched her and noticed that she made a point of making eye contact with each person, silently acknowledging their humanity. When my turn came, Alice gave me a great big smile. I was thrilled. "Did you see that?" I asked my friend Jennifer. She said, "That's because you were looking at her like you were 3 years old and she had ice cream." That's how I feel when I sign books too: like readers are bringing me presents.

Here's to the 3-year-old in all of us, readers and writers alike.

Sunday, April 08, 2007

Happy Easter










We colored eggs yesterday. Here are a few of the faves. I ate one for breakfast with some wheat toast with apricot "simply fruit." Last night I went to a birthday party (Yay E!) and passed up what looked like a heavenly cake. But, last night I also wore jeans I bought 3 years ago when I was just shy of fitting them. They were a little tight, but I thought I'd continue to lose and wear them within a month. Not only did I never wear them, but I actually grew. They hung in the back of my closet for 3 years. Until last night. Skipping the cake was worth it. This morning I celebrate all kinds of new births. Happy Easter, y'all!

Friday, April 06, 2007

Learning from Mr. Bad Writer

One of the good things about working on a new book is realizing that I did learn some things about fiction writing the last one. Not that I won't paint myself into corners now, but, I hope it will be fewer of them. Probably the biggest difference I can see regards plot. A weakness. But now I'm fully aware that it's a weakness.

I learned about plot from a really bad writer. I don't mean to judge, but this was a guy who had "liquor servants" instead of bartenders in his story. But let's say he wasn't a bad writer, just a very, very new writer. Anyway, I owe him. He did me a huge favor. I didn't learn about plot from seeing how bad his story was. He taught me about plot by telling me that my story was bad. Actually, he never called it bad, he just kept saying "nothing happens." We were in a workshop together. We got to read maybe 10 pages at a time. I turned in scenes that tricked almost everyone else in the class. The writing was good. The imagery was gorgeous. You could smell the food cooking. You could feel the character's worry. I blew off Mr. Bad Writer. I mean, what did he know? Of course something happened: the mother made Thanksgiving dinner for God's sake, and anybody with an ounce of intelligence would be moved by what a beautiful moment it was.

It took me a few more months (maybe a year) of Mr. Bad Writer's voice in my head to understand what he meant and to realize he was right: nothing really happened. The scene didn't move the character even a little forward. She was worried at the beginning of it and still worried at the end. Many, many of my scenes were like that, well-crafted but devoid of movement. So why were they there? Ouch.

I'm happy to realize now that as I write new scenes I'm very quick to ask myself, What's going on in this scene? How does it move the story forward? Why is it there? And I owe Mr. Bad Writer for that. If not for him I might still be writing beautiful set pieces that don't lead to each other or change anything...and who would want to read that?

Thursday, April 05, 2007

Wednesday, April 04, 2007

Book news


Harry Bernstein is 96. He just published his first book, The Invisible Wall. See that? It ain't too late until you're gone!
In other book news, the memoir of Dewey the library cat fetched a $1.25 million advance (from a publisher that turned down my novel, by the way).
And finally...Orange Mint and Honey is done. Done done. The final manuscript was accepted by Ballantine (which also happens to be the publisher of Mr. Bernstein's book). Look for it this time-ish next year.

Sunday, April 01, 2007

Author photo? (round one)














Hubby took this group of pictures today. God bless him. There's something about me and the camera -- when the
photographer says "smile" I grimace in a way that makes me look extremely suspicious. These are the best of the bunch. Do any of them work as author photos?I've got a professional photographer friend I can ask to take some additional shots too.
Cast your vote today!

Saturday, March 31, 2007

Ah, new love


Is there anything more wonderful than the beginning of a relationship? It's all potential. There's been no disappointments, no heartbreaks. You can't even imagine how it could go wrong. Sure, in the past, with others. But not this time. This time is perfect.

That's how I'm feeling about my new novel (N2). The beginning of a novel is the honeymoon phase. N2 is full of surprises and delights. I think about N2 all the time. When we're apart, I miss it. I can't wait to share my ideas with N2 and hear what N2 wants to tell me.
I know one day N2 and I will come to a point when we don't "get" each other. The glow will wear off. N2 will become withholding and distant. I'll say lots of things N2 takes the wrong way. Okay, I admit it: I'll be cruel and heartless. I'll start to lose interest. N2 will start to get on my nerves. But no matter what happens we'll always have the first 100 pages.

Thursday, March 29, 2007

Short fiction contest

Wild Blue Yonder
Frontier Airlines' In-Flight Magazine
Short Fiction Contest

c a l l f o r e n t r i e s
Current theme: Cool for July/August 2007 issue
Deadline: April 15, 2007
Submit via email: fiction@gowildblueyonder.com
W i n n e r R e c e i v e s :
$250
Publication in Wild Blue Yonder and on the Web site www.gowildblueyonder.com
Free online or in-person writing workshop from Lighthouse Writers
W r i t e r G u i d e l i n e s :
The story must be no more than 2,500 words.
Submit only one story per reading period, please.
The subject matter must be appropriate for all audiences, which means that adult themes are not encouraged.
Submissions should have a cover page identifying the author, the work, and associated theme. Include address, phone number, and e-mail address on cover page; the author’s name should not appear anywhere else on the manuscript.
Stories should be double-spaced with at least 1-inch margins.
If stories are submitted by mail, please enclose an email address for response. We will recycle the manuscripts.
Submissions must be previously unpublished.
Via e-mail, submit stories as a MS Word attachment or an rtf.
WBY reserves the right to edit or cut copy for space considerations.
The story cannot include any information on competing airlines.
This is an ongoing competition, and writers can submit stories over multiple issues.
ighthouse will contact selected authors for revisions (if necessary), but stories do not officially win the contest until the story is approved by the editorial staff at Wild Blue Yonder.
If none of the contest entries is deemed suitable by Lighthouse or if Wild Blue Yonder decides, for any reason, not to publish the story we select, Lighthouse reserves the right to solicit fiction from non-entrants, including but not limited to faculty, staff, and students at Lighthouse. In such cases, the contest resumes with the subsequent issue. Every good faith effort is made to select winning, suitable stories from the entry pool.

For more info, go to Lighthouse Writers Workshop.

Monday, March 26, 2007

I'm not messy...I'm efficient


36% more time-efficient than someone with a much neater desk, to be precise. So say the authors of A Perfect Mess. Pilers, they say, "leave important stuff within reach." Amen!

This is such good news, I can't tell you. But I can show you. This is my desk today. Piled high with books and magazines that I'm using for research for my current novel.
You've heard of fung shui? My husband says I practice "flung shoe." He's clever, isn't he? He may be clever, but I am time-efficient, and now I have proof!
Thanks One Heart Dancing for the article from Glamour that tipped me off to this book.

Sunday, March 25, 2007

Recipes

The first is for whole wheat (and somewhat healthier) pancakes. I made it up the other day...and it worked. I thought they were delish.

1/2 cup white flour
1/2 cup whole wheat flour
3 tsp baking powder (I find this works at high altitude; for lower elevations?)
1/2 tsp baking soda
1/4 tsp salt
1 tblsp melted butter
1 cup "sour" milk (1 cup milk + 1 tblsp lemon juice)

Typically, I'd recommend one egg, but we were out of eggs so to the above I added:
1 tblsp flour
1 tblsp corn starch
1/2 tsp canola oil
2 tblsp milk

Mix the dry ingredients. Add the wet ingredients. Don't overbeat-lumps are good. I served mine with toasted walnuts (for protein, fiber & omega-3 fats) and a little warmed apricot "simply fruit." Oh yes, and butter. Very, very tasty! Next time, I'll try leaving off the butter on top and using flax oil.

The 2nd is a recipe for book sales. Or at least according to a survey of 813 people by the ad agency Spier NY quoted in Publisher's Weekly and today's Denver Post, here's why people buy books:

49% friend's recommendation
45% familiarity with author
32% description on jacket
22% reviews
21% advertisements
17% placement on best-seller list
16% reading group pick
12% cover design

Obviously, this is a very interesting topic to me. What makes you buy a book?

Friday, March 23, 2007

Elizabeth Edwards

I want to send healing prayers and good wishes and positive vibes to Elizabeth Edwards and her family.

Sunday, March 18, 2007

First Book

I've been asked to donate a book to a First Book online auction sponsored by Lewis and Clark College in Idaho. First Book is a national nonprofit with a mission to give children in low-income families the opportunity to read and own their first new books. Sounds like a good mission to me. When my book is online, I'll post the link. Maybe then somebody will bid on it. Cause...I kind of have to wonder if I have much of a Idaho fanbase, ya know?

Thursday, March 15, 2007

Writing walks

Today is drizzly and chilly. A perfect day for a writing walk. A writing walk is when I tell myself the story I'm working on as I walk. Walking helps me get out of myself and into the world of my book. I let my worries and obsessions go and imagine my people and their lives, and on a good day I can even get whole scenes.

Today, I walked to Head Start where I volunteer for the Read Aloud program. Last semester, one of the little boys used to greet me by saying, "No books!" And after every book I read, "No more books!" Slowly, he stopped protesting. Then a few weeks ago he asked me for a hug. Today, after I read a book, he asked me to read another one! Watching kids go from book-haters to book-lovers or from shy, Spanish speakers to eager English speakers, shows me the power of story magic.

And today when I got home I found a surprise gift from my best friend waiting for me on my front porch! Thanks D! (And rock chalk Jayhawk!)

What a great way to kick off writing my next novel. And just in time. The first 100 pages are due to my Lighthouse classmates in a month!

Saturday, March 10, 2007

I've got the fever!




Planting fever, that is. It hit yesterday. I planted a few pots of pansies, in addition to the raking and weeding, and that was all it took. But 24 pansies weren't nearly enough. Our drab, dreary yard needed color and now. Yes, daffodils and scila are coming, but in the meantime, we NEEDED COLOR.

I decided to plant pansies between the flagstone path to the neighbor's house (for the mail carrier) and our house, and also on the mound in the corner I call "iris hill." I started with the perfectly sane idea of keeping to a color scheme, yellow and blue, to go with the daffodils and scila. But I went to City Floral, so I ended up with a sunny yellow and a sky blue, sure, but also a variety of sherbet oranges, wine reds, apricots, lilacs, deep purples, and combinations of orange and purple and gold and red and cream and wine. I bought any pansy that caught my eye, which turned out to be 16 six-packs. Unfortunately, it turns out that not even 120 pansies are really enough color for our large front yard.

But we'll just have to wait for the bulbs to come up because, fever or no, after three more hours of raking, weeding and planting, I am so sore I made hubby swear that tomorrow, no matter how much I might want to (there's still plenty to do), he won't let me work in the yard.

It was worth it though. And now the gods are rewarding my efforts: it's raining. Rain. In March. In Denver.

Friday, March 09, 2007

The great outdoors


Is it the warm sun (which came out again today, after all)? The singing birds? Endorphins? The sense of accomplishment after clearing up months of debris?


Or the wonderful feeling of community? I wasn't outside for more than 20 minutes before Zeta, whose husband died a few weeks ago, walked across the street to say hi, and Brenda said she looked forward to admiring the yard this summer. Haywood, who can't grow flowers, but grows wonderful vegetables, stopped and promised me greens, peppers and tomatoes this year.
I know this is a funny picture to post. But my neighbor Rob saw me filling the Dumpster and said, "You've been busy." And I felt so good. Plus, the yard still looks less than beautiful...so a photo of all the leaves and stalks and mush I cleared from the yard.

Whatever it is, two hours of cleaning up the yard and I am in a GREAT mood!

Thursday, March 08, 2007

Women & books & publishing

Here's a study looking at women (who buy the vast majority of books) and their ideas about nonfiction books. The purpose of the study: "Women are a powerful and influential group. We’d like to gather information about their economic impact and the dynamics that influence their book buying decisions. The study will also look at factors that could help more women become successfully published authors." If you participate, you get a copy of the results. Could be interesting.

Spring cleaning

Spring is in the air, and it's clean up time. Yesterday, it was 60-some degrees and sunny in Denver. So, of course, I spent the day inside cleaning my office. De-Orange Mint and Honey-ing my space to make room for Novel 2 (which has a working title, but I'm not in love with it, so I'll be referring to it as N2 here). I put away files and took down pictures and quotes and clippings that I have collected while working on Orange Mint. I made space for files in the top file drawer for N2. And I bought a giant cork board to place inspirational visuals for N2. For example, I wrote a description of one of my new characters and was later flipping through a magazine and saw a model who looked just like I imagine her to look. So she's up on the wall, along with another picture. So far there are just the 2, but over the next few months I'll be adding lots, and it feels good to make room (literally and figuratively) for new ideas, new stories, new characters.

Our yard needs cleaning up too. The scila and daffodils will look much prettier if they're not blooming next to withered brown stalks and icky, smashed leaf-mush. Later this weekend (when it will be less beautiful), I'll get outside.

I did it all backwards weather-wise, but for my own peace of mind I needed to clear the office space before I clear the yard space.

What are y'all making room for this spring?

Tuesday, March 06, 2007

The Pajama Gardener in print


Months ago I submitted a very brief essay to Garden Ideas & Outdoor Living (a publication of Better Homes & Gardens). Today, I received a copy of their Spring 2007 issue. They printed an excerpt from my essay as part of "Stories to Share: Readers relate garden experiences, both recent and long-remembered." Two other writers and I made the cut.

It's a lovely magazine, so I encourage you to check it out. But for those who may be interested, here's my entire essay (sort of how the Pajama Gardener was born):

The Pajama Gardener

You would know our front yard by two things: the giant Colorado rose boulders that plow like ships through oceans of flowers and me, the lady gardening in her pajamas.

A few years ago my husband and I xeriscaped, replacing lawn with drought-tolerant trees, shrubs, flowers, grasses and groundcovers. Our idea was to plant low-maintenance plants. But I discovered I enjoyed weeding, dead-heading, pruning and keeping company with flowers. I ended up not just creating a garden, but becoming a gardener.

Usually I’m so eager to get outside I don’t even change out of my nightclothes. At first I’d only go out in my p.j.s early in the morning when I could safely expect to go unnoticed. I’d go inside and dress when I saw the first dog-walker. But over time I grew more concerned about the garden’s appearance than my own. Now you can find me outside in my pajamas as late as noon. What do the neighbors think? Are drivers slowing down to wonder at the California poppies or at me? I don’t care.

Add me to the list of the other characters in my urban Denver neighborhood: Big Voice Charles, the adult son of the couple across the street who you can hear coming a block away. The Faller, the heavy kid who regularly falls off his bike. Teeny and Tiny, the large, elderly black woman and the small, ancient Chinese woman who stroll by together every morning. And the Pajama Gardener: the woman so drawn to her yard she can’t be bothered to get dressed first.

Friday, March 02, 2007

The power of orange and mint

Got cabin fever? Tired of snow and gray skies? Feeling blue? Get yourself some orange...orange essential oil that is and some peppermint oil. Then:
  • splash a few drops in your bath water (though the peppermint is cooling like menthol)
  • put a few drops on a tissue or in a bowl of hot water and place them next to you
  • add a few drops to your bottle of lotion (make sure the essential oils get diluted)
  • heat them in an oil diffuser (I use a clay pot diffuser with a tea light candle)
  • or sprinkle a few drops on your clothes (be careful with fine fabrics) or in your hair
Will perk you right up. No calories. No side effects. (Read the directions. Don't use undiluted oils directly on your skin and keep them away from mucous membranes.)

I've got peppermint oil heating in my diffuser and some orange oil in my hair at this moment. Edits are almost done. Life is good.

Monday, February 26, 2007

Fund for Kenia Moravelo

This is a letter from my agent Victoria Sanders. I'm planning to help and I hope you will too:

Hello,

I am seeking any and all help in securing medical treatment for a young girl whose heart-breaking story I first learned about in the New York Times, as reported by journalist Sharon LaFraniere (December 1, 2006) . The article is copied below.

Kenia Moravelo was a 9 year old girl in Madagascar when her uncle raped her so brutally and repeatedly that she lost control of her bowels. She was forced to quit school due to her medical condition and has not received proper medical treatment to date.

Doctors at Massachusetts General Hospital are arranging to treat her free of charge and a UNICEF representative is helping with visa and passport paperwork but there are still other costs to consider: the airfare for Kenia, her parents and a translator (they only speak Malagasy), visa and passport fees, meals and even clothing as the family has very little.

We are asking you to lend a hand by donating to a fund that has been set up for Kenia. Brown University is accepting and holding the donations until Kenia and her parents can arrive in the country.

Please keep in mind that any donation amount is welcomed. Individually, it may not seem like much but together we can really make a tremendous impact in Kenia’s life. All checks should be made out to:

BROWN UNIVERSITY, KENIA FUND and mailed to:

Victoria Sanders & Associates
Attn: Kenia’s Fund
241 Avenue of the Americas, Suite 11H
New York, NY 10014

I plan on forwarding all checks by March 21st and look forward to whatever support you can provide to help with our goal of raising $100, 000. Please also check for matching funds through your employer.

Thank you,

Victoria Sanders
Victoria Sanders & Associates
www.victoriasanders.com

From the New York Times
December 1, 2006
Sex Abuse of Girls Is Stubborn Scourge in Africa
By SHARON LAFRANIERE
Thirty miles outside this down-at-the-heels seaside town, Justin Betombo tends his vanilla plants and cheers the local soccer team as if he had not a care in the world. And in fact, what was once his greatest worry has been almost magically lifted from his shoulders.
In the local prosecutor's office, a file filled with accusations that he had sodomized his 9-year-old niece has vanished.
Mr. Betombo was arrested in 2003 after the girl, Kenia, said he had savagely assaulted her. The police obtained his confession, which he later recanted, and a doctor's certificate that Kenia had been sexually violated, rendering her incontinent and anorexic. Twice they sent the case file to the prosecutor.
There matters ended. Mr. Betombo attended one hearing in the prosecutor's office, but Kenia's parents say they were not told about it. The records are nowhere to be found. And Mr. Betombo walked away a free man. Kenia's parents, distressed by what they saw as a travesty of justice, asked that her name be published, hoping that her case would set an example.
Among sub-Saharan Africa's children, such stories are disturbingly common. Even as this region races to adopt many of the developed world's norms for children, including universal education and limits on child labor, one problem -- child sexual abuse -- remains stubbornly resistant to change.
In much of the continent, child advocates say, perpetrators are shielded by the traditionally low status of girls, a lingering view that sexual abuse should be dealt with privately, and justice systems that constitute obstacle courses for victims. Data is sparse and sexual violence is notoriously underreported. But South African police reports give an inkling of the sweep of child victimization. In the 12 months ending in March 2005, the police reported more than 22,000 cases of child rape. In contrast, England and Wales, with nine million more people than South Africa, reported just 13,300 rapes of women and girls in the most recent 12-month period.
''The prevalence of child rape in South Africa goes from really, really high to astronomically high,'' said Dr. Rachel Jewkes, a specialist on sexual violence with South Africa's Medical Research Council.
Africa is not unique in its high rates of abuse. While a survey of nine countries last year by the World Health Organization found the highest incidence of child sexual abuse in Namibia -- more than one in five women there reported being sexually abused before age 15 -- it also found frequent abuse in Peru, Japan and Brazil, among other nations. Relatives are frequent perpetrators in Africa, as in much of the world. But this continent's children face added risks, especially at school. Half of Malawian schoolgirls surveyed in 2006 said male teachers or classmates had touched them in a sexual manner without their permission.
The number of abuse cases is rising in South Africa, Zimbabwe, Zambia, Uganda, Kenya, Sierra Leone and other African countries, statistics show. Whether that means more children are being victimized or more are coming forward -- or both -- is impossible to determine, experts say.
Researchers cite various reasons that abuse is so common: poverty, which makes it harder for parents to keep children safe; a legacy of violent, oppressed societies, and cultural mores that allow offenders to escape criminal punishment, often by marrying their victims or compensating their victims' families.
But, ultimately, said Dr. Jewkes, of the Medical Research Council, the vast gap between the status of men and boys and that of women and girls explains much of the climate of relative tolerance. ''If I had to put my finger on one overriding issue, it would be gender inequality,'' she said.
Increasingly, African nations are openly acknowledging the problem, partly because AIDS has made children more likely to fall ill or die from sexual abuse. Campaigns against abuse are under way in Zimbabwe, Lesotho, Swaziland, Kenya, Sierra Leone and elsewhere.
The impact is apparent in Zimbabwe, where a child rights group estimates that at least 2,000 child rape victims have died of AIDS since 1998. ''Literally for the first time in Zimbabwe's history, child abuse is no longer a taboo subject,'' said James Elder, a Unicef spokesman.
That said, the response is minuscule compared with the extent of abuse, said Pamela Shifman, a child protection specialist at Unicef headquarters in New York. ''We see huge numbers of girls affected,'' she said. ''These crimes are still treated as the fault or the problem of the victim.''
South Africa is perhaps furthest along in developing the specialized courts, medical treatment and counseling that have long been standard fare in the West. But even there, Dr. Jewkes said, appalling police work -- for example, not verifying the addresses of suspects and accusers -- routinely dooms prosecutions.
Beyond that, said Joan van Niekerk, national coordinator of Childline, which runs South Africa's child crisis hot lines, children regularly complain that coping with the criminal justice system is worse than the sexual abuse itself.
Like much of the region, Madagascar, an island of 18 million off Africa's southeastern coast, is making headway, but still falls short of even South Africa's low standard.
Since 2000, Unicef has set up 11 child-protection teams of doctors, educators and judges to inform the public about sex abuse and assist victims. Hassan Mouigni, who leads vice investigations at the main police station in Antananarivo, Madagascar's capital of 1.4 million, sees some results. This year, he said, the station has investigated 95 cases, compared with 40 in all of 2003.
But medical and legal authorities say the vast majority of families still hew to a tradition of accepting payment from perpetrators. The few who press charges are plunged into a criminal justice process that Mr. Mouigni calls deeply frustrating.
He can offer victims who arrive at his station little more than an officer behind a typewriter -- no counselors, no video cameras to record testimony, no toy-filled rooms or friendly intermediaries. Instead, girls as young as 5 are expected to confront their tormentors face to face. Perhaps most daunting, poor families must produce at least $15 to cover investigation costs like gloves and paper for medical exams.
That was nearly enough to deter Claudine Ravoniarisoa, who appeared at Mr. Mouigni's station one recent Thursday with her 15-year-old daughter. Wringing her hands nonstop, the girl told officers that a neighbor had raped her while her mother was hospitalized. ''He destroyed my life and my body,'' she said.
But once her mother learned of the costs, she decided to identify the perpetrator only as ''Mr. X.''
''I have no money to pursue this,'' she protested, while an officer tried to persuade her to do so.
In another room, Domoima Rahamtanirima pressed a case against her brother-in-law in the molestation of her 5-year-old, Menja. For two weeks afterward, Mrs. Rahamtanirima said, the girl cried when she urinated.
Mrs. Rahamtanirima borrowed money for the required medical exam. Nothing was left to buy the medicine the doctor had prescribed for Menja. Her file complete, the little girl traipsed in her frilly white dress to a courthouse as packed with accusers, accused and their supporters as a New York subway station at rush hour. She waited four hours, then sat down at a table before them all and, in a tiny voice, identified her uncle, seated across from her, as her assailant.
''We had to do it,'' said her mother, who said that everyone in her village knew about the case and asked that her daughter's name and picture be used. ''Everybody should be aware that things like this should not happen to children.'' A Quest for Redress
Kenia's parents, Antoine and Joazandry Moravelo, are equally passionate about the need for justice for their daughter. But after four fruitless years, they have all but given up hope. Though her photograph and name have appeared in local newspapers, they say, no one has been held accountable.
Kenia, the sixth of eight children, moved in with her aunt and uncle Lydia and Justin Betombo at the age of 8 after they promised to educate her. Sharing child care is common in Africa, and the Betombos, who lived 45 minutes away, had more than the Moravelos: a car and a two-room, tree-shaded house with sheet metal walls instead of the Moravelos' thatched-roof reed hut.
But Kenia said the house was no haven. She said, ''my uncle showed me his penis whenever he had a chance, and I always ran away.'' Her aunt's stock response, she said, was, ''Don't talk about that.''
One night in mid-2002, when her aunt was out, Kenia said, her uncle summoned her to his bed. ''Because I refused, he came over to my bed,'' she said. Afterward, she said, he told her, ''If you talk about what happened, I will kill you.'' She said she told her aunt anyway, and was instructed to keep quiet. The physical consequences of the attack, however, were hard to hide.
Kenia lost control of her bowels, had to quit school and was increasingly homebound. For six months or more, her only treatment was from a traditional healer who told her to boil herbs and wash with them. Finally, emaciated and weak, Kenia approached a neighbor. ''She said, 'I am sick; I am sick,' and she was crying,'' said the neighbor, Suzanne Mboty, who knew Kenia's parents.
Hours after the neighbor reached his village, Mr. Moravelo retrieved Kenia. ''She was so thin, so thin, I couldn't believe it,'' he said. Her mother said Kenia could not even sit down. ''I opened her bag, and I saw all her underwear full of feces,'' she said. ''I said, 'My God, what is this?' ''
Kenia refused to say. But at the local health clinic, the nurse held up scissors and threatened to operate if Kenia did not talk.
That began nearly four years of medical procedures for Kenia, including a colostomy, two operations to close it, and repeated hospitalizations for wasting, incontinence and anorexia. Her mother said she sometimes refuses to eat because defecation is painful. Medical reports indicate that the muscle controlling defecation has been largely destroyed and her anal canal is heavily scarred.
The family is rent: Kenia's parents had to sell their rice field and move to Diego-Suarez in the north for her treatment. Most of their other children remained behind, in the care of elder siblings. Kenia, now 13, is temporarily in Antananarivo, where a doctor is trying to treat her with a special diet.
A surgeon who recently examined her said a full recovery was unlikely. The uncertainty preys on Kenia, her mother said. ''Sometimes she tells me, 'My body is hurting. I have so many problems. I don't go to school. I just feel this sickness all around me,' '' she said.
The family's legal efforts have met even less success. Mr. Moravelo lodged a complaint with the cash-short police, but the officers had no car; he hired a taxi so they could pick up Mr. Betombo for questioning. Frightened and sobbing, Kenia confronted her uncle at the chaotic station. Justice Subverted
Mr. Betombo and his wife denied Kenia's account. But ultimately -- after the police beat him, Mr. Betombo said -- he signed a confession, was arrested and carted off to the prosecutor's office in nearby Antalaha.
Kenia's father said that was the last he heard until a few days later, when friends told him that Justin Betombo was ''free and happy'' back in his village.
Mr. Betombo said he had convinced the prosecutor that his confession was false. Kenia's parents say they were never summoned to contradict him.
''I took this girl in as my daughter,'' Mr. Betombo said. ''I really can't understand why they say that I could have done such an awful thing to her. I think they were jealous of me and they wanted to ruin my life.''
Sambava's police department again sent the file to the prosecutor's office months later. But Sophie Ramahakaraha, the prosecutor in charge, now says that she has no record or memory of it. Real instances of child rape are rare, she said. ''Very often the parents are poor and they use this procedure to get money,'' she said.
But to Daul Randriamalaza, a Sambava police inspector, there is no question about who was the victim here.
''I don't want to talk about corruption here, but that is what could have happened in this case,'' he said as prisoners watched from the station's tiny cell.
''I have children myself. How can I be happy about this?''

Sugar inventory

I just made myself a cup of cocoa with unsweetened cocoa powder, Splenda and the last little bite of Dagoba 87% cacao Eclipse bar. At first I was very proud of myself that the Dagoba bar lasted me a whole month. Then I started to add up that I had also had 3 fruit-juice sweetened cookies in the last month, which didn't sound like the diet of someone who had "gone off sugar."

But then I compared last month's intake with what used to be a typical month of sugar gorging. I'd say my sugar intake for the last 30 days would have looked something like this:

40-50 tablespoons of refined sugar added to tea and decaf coffee
25-40 sodas or sugary fruit drinks
8-12 donuts & pastries (there were at least 2 donut-eating opportunities at work in the last month & Hubby and I surely would have had some at least one weekend)
2 slices of banana bread (a staff meeting)
2 pieces of Starbucks coffee cake (maybe low-fat, maybe not, but definitely high-sugar)
1/2-3/4 "big party bag" of M&M's (which I would have eaten on top of popcorn & washed down with some of the above sodas!)
6 chocolate chip cookies or chocolate chip muffins
12 pieces of candy from the many candy bowls at work
20 slices of white toast with butter (sometimes with jam)
Probably a couple servings of grape jelly on a PB&J
5 servings of white pasta
3 giant servings of white rice & flour tortillas (Chipotle burritos)
And finally for the last nail in the coffin, Hubby bought some French vanilla ice cream, chocolate syrup and Spanish peanuts this weekend. I definitely would have joined him! Instead I had unsweeted yogurt with unsweetened frozen (thawed) strawberries with Splenda.


Wow. I never wrote it all down before. These are all guesses, but they're pretty close (give or take a pound) to the amount of sugar I'd eat & drink in a typical month. Just the thought of it all makes me sick to my stomach. I'm back to feeling pretty good about my Dagoba and air cookies!

Good one

"If there weren't any blacks, Jews or gays, there wouldn't be any Oscars...or probably anyone named Oscar." -- Ellen DeGeneres

Sunday, February 25, 2007

Welcome to the Blogosphere Merry Peri

The Pajama Gardener has just become aware of a cool new blog: The Merry Peri: Musings of a middle-aged woman intent on changing her world. She's got a very ambitious list of things she wants to do before she turns 50. Will she succeed?

What's on your list of things to accomplish before (or after) the big 5-0? I'm going to ponder that question myself. Thanks Ms. Peri for the (sugar-free) food for thought!

Saturday, February 24, 2007

Learning from the past



Each year for our anniversary, my husband gives me a gift based on wedding etiquette (we use the list in the New York Public Library Desk Reference). The 1st year was paper, the 2nd year cotton and so on. This year was our 8th anniversary and the gift was to be bronze or electrical appliances.

This year, he gave me a bronze Sankofa bird. The Sankofa bird represents the West African belief that one learns from the past to benefit the present and the future. I've seen different pictures. My Sankofa bird has 2 heads (one that looks toward the now and the future and one that looks to the past).

I keep it on my computer desk right above my monitor so I see it every day. There's nothing like writing (maybe parenting?) to make you doubt what you know. It's good to have something remind me that everything I've experienced up to now has taught me what I need to know for where I am.

Wednesday, February 21, 2007

In Praise of Nina Simone


The professor taught us to worship the great men of jazz, but it was the women who drew me in: Billie Holiday, Ella Fitzgerald, Sarah Vaughn, Dinah Washington, Bessie Smith, Mildred Bailey. They were queens, priestesses, goddesses — encouraging me, pointing me away from danger, schooling me in the ways of life. Especially Nina Simone.
From Orange Mint and Honey (Ballantine 2008)

That’s my character Shay Dixon speaking about the late Nina Simone, who would have turned 74 today.

Known as the High Priestess of Soul, Nina Simone was fierce, brave and maybe a touch crazy (actually, she might have been clinically depressed or might have suffered from borderline personality disorder).

She was a black woman who wrote “Mississippi Goddam” in 1963 after four little girls were bombed in a church in Birmingham. She was a dark-skinned woman who put the words “Young, Gifted and Black” together at a time when many black folks couldn’t imagine gifted and black being used in the same sentence. Raised in a tiny town in the Jim Crow South, she grew up to stand on stages around the world in front of wealthy white folks and command their attention (and sometimes berated them if they didn’t give it to her).

In other words, she did things you’d have to be brave and maybe a touch crazy to do. May we all be so brave and crazy.

At the beginning of my novel Shay listens to Nina Simone’s version of "House of the Rising Sun" and it sets her on an unexpected path back to her mother. (You can watch Nina Simone performing the song here.)

Interesting coincidence: Nina Simone is a mother-figure for Shay, and my mother died on Nina Simone’s birthday (which I didn’t know when Nina Simone first appeared to me as a character). So yes, today is also the anniversary of when my mother passed, six days after she turned 45.

Happy Birthday Dr. Nina Simone. And here’s to all our queens, priestesses, goddesses, mothers of the spirit, play-mamas and real mamas!

Sunday, February 18, 2007

Take 2 (or 3)


At the risk of repeating myself, here's more garden green: daffodil sprouts are coming up! And yes, I have yet another birthday to celebrate. My bestest friend Diane turns 32 again today. Happy Birthday D!

Saturday, February 17, 2007

Coincidence?

Hmmm. Two months off sugar, and Hershey's announces it's laying off 1,500 employees. Could it be because I'm not doing my part any more? Employees at M&Ms Mars better look out: this is the first time I've gone this long without an M&M. :-)

Thursday, February 15, 2007

My mother's birthday











February is birthday month at The Pajama Gardener. Today would have been my mother’s 60th birthday. She died 15 years ago, and pictures of her can still make me cry. But they make me laugh too. These photos are just a few of her many incarnations. Clearly, we all have gone through some changes; that would be me with the groovy shag.

She and my father are so young in these pictures (my mother was just 16 and my father was only 18 when they had me--she is pregnant with me in the first photo, and I'm the littlest girl below her on the bike). I could have kids their age now. I want to reach into these pictures and pinch their apple cheeks, hold their unlined hands, tell them everything is OK. But I always felt more mother to my mother than mothered by her.

I try to imagine what it would be like if she was still here. At 60 she would still be lovely. Most assuredly, men young enough to be her sons would ask her to dance and men old enough to be her father would promise her she’d never have to work another day if she would just please baby baby please be theirs. She’d still be ready to rip and run (and shop and party and eat and drink) and leave sleeping for when you get old. She would still be great friends with all kinds of people: children, gamblers, dope men, lawyers, doctors, councilmen, ladies of the church, winos. She would be tickled to pieces by her grandchildren (and now one great-grandchild).

At 60, she would be changed by the change and would have learned all the lessons one learns from being on the earth 15 extra years. But she’d still call me to see if I was watching some show that wouldn’t air for another hour because she wouldn’t remember I was in a different time zone. She’d still ask “Is that what you’re wearing?” meaning “Please go and change.” She’d still watch me when we were together like she couldn’t get enough of looking at me. We’d still drive each other crazy and love each other deeply.

But she's not here, so I celebrate her without her. Over the years, to honor my mother's birthday I've lighted candles at the basilica, bought things I didn't need and drank tequila in a black lace mini-skirt. I'll spend part of today with the kids at the Head Start, trying to give them the love of reading she gave to me. And I'll spend part of the day editing my book about a daughter and the mother who drives her crazy and who she loves deeply.

Tuesday, February 13, 2007

Happy 18th Birthday Candace!!


To one of my all time favorite nieces,
I wish you a wonderful birthday and an even better year. Exciting things are coming your way, kid. Or, excuse me: Exciting things are coming your way, young woman. Enjoy!
Love,
Aunt Carleen

Sunday, February 11, 2007

Green!




Do you see it?! This is some yarrow that I moved from the front yard and planted in the back near the house. The snow hasn't completely melted, but where it has there are little patches of glorious, amazing, beautiful GREEN!

Saturday, February 10, 2007

He's in!


Buckle your seatbelts, America! We officially have an African American man, a woman and a Latino man running for president. Dems, we can make history. Let's do this!
My husband asked me last night if I was going to work the election again this year. Oh yeah! If I could knock on doors and hold up street signs for John Kerry, who I wasn't even passionate about, I will definitely be on board for this campaign. If fact, it's my "Rosa resolution."

Friday, February 09, 2007

Why does this bother me?





Is it just me or is there something creepy about all this? I know Flip Wilson did it, and Tony Curtis and Jack Lemmon did it, and many others did it. But it feels a little like what Dave Chappelle talked about when he quit his show on Comedy Central: Is the audience laughing with Madea, Big Momma and Rasputia or at them and the real women like them? Or is the audience laughing with or at the actors hidden under all the latex? In other words, who's the butt of the joke: fat black women or emasculated black men?
Tyler Perry's portrayal of Madea feels loving, and so maybe doesn't belong in the same category as the others, but still I'm glad his new movie goes in another direction.

Wednesday, February 07, 2007

One way to get a book deal

It worked (sort of) for O.J. Now Lisa Marie Nowak, the astronaut accused of attempting to kidnap and murder her rival, has a book deal. Galleycat has the news.

Make a "Rosa resolution"

Elaine Lee sent me this video in an email with a note that says "love him or hate him Rev. Al makes a point." The video is Al Sharpton eulogizing Rosa Parks, and he makes a few points. One that I'm taking to heart is to make a Rosa resolution, to do something meaningful to honor her memory. He also has a powerful line about a mirror being for reflection AND correction. Artists, listen up.

Sunday, February 04, 2007

Congrats Colts!


Way to go Tony Dungy!
Congrats to LaFreya and Maryann and all the other Colts fans!

Saturday, February 03, 2007

Let it all out

Got a beef with your agent or editor? Author J.A. Konrath has created an online place to vent. Writers, editors, agents, publicists and anybody else in publishing is invited to stop by the Anonymous Publishing Vent Club and get it off their chests. Even if you don't have a beef, you might learn something. So far, there's a post from a pissed-off publicist (writers, be nice!), an author suspicious about why some white-haired writers were dumped by their publishers and a few other folks.

Go Bears!


I had a dear, dear friend named Lovie who passed a few years ago, so in her honor I'm rooting for Lovie Smith.


Which team are you rooting for?

Friday, February 02, 2007

Pajama Chat coming soon


Stay tuned for the Pajama Chat with Stephanie Rose Bird. Hope to get it posted very soon!